What the universe is trying to tell you when an ex reappears.

Some people hope and wish and pray their exes would return, especially if the break-up is rather new.

For those of us that have relegated certain ex-partnerships to that of pure fiction, or to the list of things I-don’t-give-a-fuck-about-ever, the feeling we get when bumping into them after a long separation may not be as warm and welcoming as Hollywood often portrays.

It’s never like we see in the movies where boy and girl split in a rather heartbreaking way, only to go live their lives with others and return together by some fortunate planetary alignment forcing them to realize that it is only each other they need.

Not that it doesn’t or can’t happen as there are many situations that end happily ever after (whatever that means), but more often than not it does not happen that way.  It doesn’t even happen that way to celebrities.

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Take Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt.  When my best friend-in-my-mind, Brad Pitt was finally single again, the whole world went mad thinking he could finally reunite with my other very best friend in my mind, Jennifer Aniston.  While people felt it a poetic justice of sorts considering how they’d parted, that love connection is done, although a friendship potential is there.

It was likely done long before Angelina ever came into the picture but alas what is Hollywood without a good ‘other woman story’, right? That being said, there is no romantic reunion on the horizon, and both parties would do well to move on to more spiritually (there’s the keyword friends) fulfilling partnerships.** (see the end of the post for a quick note on spiritual connections)

In my unfortunate case, I ran into someone I had long forgotten (as the relationship wasn’t a particularly meaningful one) and it quite took me by surprise as it was a whole two decades since we’d last seen each other.

Exhibit A (my ex) was nice enough, had done well, was starting over again in his life for which I wished him well, (we’ve all been at rock bottom more than once on this journey of life) but I couldn’t help but wonder why the universe would have me run into this particular person?

After our brief encounter, I got to thinking.  What does it really mean when your exes show up?

I questioned my spirit guide mercilessly but in his usual fashion, Paeli just did his best to lead me to my own conclusions.  After shoving a brownie down my throat from the stress of it all, it finally hit me:


Sometimes, our exes show up to remind us that even though things might not be idyllic where we are, they could always be worse…see exhibit A.

I smiled to myself as I drove home with a new outlook on my strange encounter.

When I got home, I threw some cards down (having nothing to do with my ex) to get a more expanded view in my mind of what the bigger message was.

What I discovered was eye-opening.

All the cards pointed to appreciation.  Appreciation for my health, family, friends, lovers, co-workers, opportunities, and just for life in general.

We get so caught up obsessing over what we don’t have, or what is not good in our lives, that we forget about all the blessings we do have.  We also have a tendency to forget where we came from which can cause a lack of appreciation (there’s that word again) for how far we’ve come.

I was miserable with this ex (which is why I blocked him out) and while I had my share of tumultuous relationships after him, I ended up with someone who was right for me.

If you are unattached (or attached) and you happen to run into an ex-partner who really wasn’t a good match before you allow your emotions to squeeze all common sense from your brain, take a minute to meditate on the message the universe might be sending.

Sometimes we fall in love with the nostalgia of a person and not the true experience of them.

If the universe takes someone from our lives, it might be for good reason.  As a matter of fact, I can’t think of anyone the divine removed from my life that didn’t end up being for the absolute best.

As always, Keep Seeking.



If you could see the energies flowing between two humans, you would see what looks like a thin, vibrating chord. We have many of these chords connecting us to significant people in our lives.

It is important to note that all energy is neutral, what makes it positive or negative is the thoughts that accompany them.


When two people are connected there is a very clear flow of energy between them.  I can see this when I read people.  So when they tell me they are done with a partner and I still see the chord, I know for certain it is not over.

Some chords look like they are ripped and those relationships usually have third-party interference that quite literally “tore them apart.”  It can be hard to mend, but they do have the possibility since the end of the chords are still free-flowing.

When a relationship is over, the chord abruptly ends and there is no more connection to that person.  This is also very clear to read when people ask about certain partnerships.

In the case of lovers, there are two chords connecting to the heart chakra and the second chakra,  There are also chords that connect to the root chakra.

If the couple is connected spiritually,  there will be chords from their sixth and seventh chakras.


If the energy flowing through is infused with negativity, the energy appears dark with what looks like little black hooks that can grab into our aura and chakras.

When we have dark chords it is best to remove them as those are toxic relationships (see my post about toxic energies and how to clear them) that drain our precious life force energy.  Sage, Epsom Salt Baths and Energy Healers can help remove them.

Stay safe out there.  Remember, Mother Earth always has our backs so don’t forget to give thanks to her too while offering up your gratitude to the divine!!

Blessings and Love,








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