Some of the most deeply hurt people try very hard to cover up their true feelings. They are masters at hiding their emotions from the world, so as not to show a perceived weakness, they've been conditioning themselves to believe they can never succumb to. And so in silence, they suffer as they hold your hand through your latest work-related drama, dry your tears over your latest break-up, and celebrate with you during your latest victory.
Overcoming this dragon will take great mental clarity and focus. The journey into the dark night of the soul is not for the faint of heart. And while most of us have to go through this painful life transition, it is how we think about our journey that determines how we will come out on the other side.
My spirit guide and I had it out many times over the power of forgiveness as I could not see how allowing someone that had done so much harm should be let off the hook. Letting them "off the hook" is exactly what we should do to free ourselves from the energetic (and sometimes karmic) ties we have created with our abusers.