Our subconscious likes to attract situations, and people to us that can challenge our growth as humans. When a situation presents itself that raises any of these fears it is really our higher selves urging us to learn the power of standing our ground. And how do we stand our ground when faced with something we really don't want to do? We learn to say no.
Those of us that are compassionate will often try to rationalize keeping these demons in our lives for fear of losing a friend. But the truth is we are poisoning ourselves. We are quite literally drinking a toxic emotional cocktail that robs us of our joy, self-respect, and happiness. And yet, just like any other addiction, we keep coming back for more.
Your feelings, emotions, and expressions thereof make other people uncomfortable. That's it. Essentially these three phrases above (and many more) are designed to help the person you are being vulnerable to escape your emotions which they are not willing to deal with. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Nothing to do with your being weak, or emotionally unstable. No, it has to do with other people not wanting to confront their own emotions by having to deal with yours.