My spirit guide and I had it out many times over the power of forgiveness as I could not see how allowing someone that had done so much harm should be let off the hook.
Letting them "off the hook" is exactly what we should do to free ourselves from the energetic (and sometimes karmic) ties we have created with our abusers.
I've loved, been loved, AM love, and yet I find it hard to love myself. I want to live in joy but fear what might happen if I just let go...I am human.
We tend to repress things that make us feel bad; anger, grief, sadness and fear clog our healthy cells causing premature aging and stress related illness. Many healers have mentioned that dis-ease is a state in the body where there is turmoil, thus causing illness.