While we are used to the Saturn conjunct Pluto alignment as it happens every 34 years, what is happening on January 12th, 2020 is a rare connection between Jupiter, Saturn, and Pluto, the likes of which we haven't seen in our heavens since 1518 AD!
My spirit guide and I had it out many times over the power of forgiveness as I could not see how allowing someone that had done so much harm should be let off the hook. Letting them "off the hook" is exactly what we should do to free ourselves from the energetic (and sometimes karmic) ties we have created with our abusers.
Your feelings, emotions, and expressions thereof make other people uncomfortable. That's it. Essentially these three phrases above (and many more) are designed to help the person you are being vulnerable to escape your emotions which they are not willing to deal with. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Nothing to do with your being weak, or emotionally unstable. No, it has to do with other people not wanting to confront their own emotions by having to deal with yours.